I was rambling back & forth on MarcoPolo w/ a friend last week. We were talking about relationships, and somehow landed on a slightly rachet Bible story found in Genesis 29-35.
You familiar with it??
In a nutshell, the story is about a dude named Jacob who worked 7 years in exchange for the permission to wife-up the woman of his dreams, Rachel. However after 7 years of slaving in them fields, ole boy gets bamboozled into marrying the wrong chick- her older, less attractive sister, Leah! Foolishly he agrees to work 7 MORE years (on some Double or Nothing-ish -_-) just to marry #RealBae. He find himself in a complicated love triangle w/ 2 wives, 12+ children, some concubines & whole lot of baby-mama-drama.
My 3 takeaways from the love triangle story:
1. don't work to earn a man
2. don't wait
3. don't settle
Lemme explain what I mean...
Work with a greater purpose
Work; activity involving mental or physical effort done in order to achieve a purpose or result.
Everybody works. We all exert time and energy into some or multiple things to achieve results. People run to lose weight. Squat to tone a booty. Go to a job for a paycheck. Perform for an applause. Grind for a payoff. However you spend your time, and however you earn money- don't do it with the goal of "earning" a boo-thang or any other earthly thing for that matter. Clearly I am not saying shred your paychecks, purge yourself of all possessions, and do everything for free. An expectation for compensation in exchange for work is normal. A desire for a spouse or partner is also natural. It just can't be the only purpose or result you're seeking to achieve- or you'll be left unfulfilled.
No shade to Jacob... [ok just a little shade] but he reminded me to be mindful of my motives & heart behind all forms of work. Whether it be a job, a hobby, volunteering, faith-based service, or self care activities. I am encouraged to actively involve all of myself for the purpose of loving God and His people first. If #FutureBae rolls into my life while i'm on my grind-cool, but that's not the purpose of my "work".
Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people. Colossians 3:23 NLT
Live your best life now
I have no clue what Jacob's 14 years looked like, but I imagine a lot of his life was spent "on hold". He probably had some dope honeymoon plans once his shift was over, but sadly it seems like he could have low-key wasted time waiting though.
Naturally, as a single person I have dreams of a life with #FutureBae, however let's be honest- he may never come. While I believe God hears my prayers & has given me desires of the heart- I refuse to be on pause until I see all of the manifestations of those things. I am not waiting to be in a relationship or for marriage to experience all the wonder God has for me!
Take brave faith-steps
The Jacob-Leah-Rachel love triangle was messy BUT I gotta give him credit for waiting for what he knew he reeeeally wanted. I'm sure Leah was decent, but He knew he had eyes for Rachel. Nothing stood in the way of getting her. He was willing to hold out for the "best".
Taking the trip abroad you've always wanted, exploring business or creative ventures, improving your mental or physical health, and other dope life aspirations simply can't get suspended until you're boo'd up! In the same breath, don't settle for foolishness either. Don't hook up with the first person that slides in your DMs, accept the first job offer, or take the quick & easy option.
PS. Should you find yourself in trash, don't give up
Like the story in Genesis, you may have birthed some situations or been in an actual trashy Situationships that you aren't necessarily proud of. You may have felt like you've wasted time in waiting. The good news is, from that ancient triangular offspring came the12 tribes of Israel. And from the tribe of Judah, (one of Jacob's sons) came JESUS! God turned the mess into THE most powerful lineage ever.
Proves to me that it doesn’t matter how you start or what mess you walk through, God can and almost prefers to take trash and make marvelous use out of it!
[He specializes in making MVPs out of benchwarmers y'all]
So we're not giving up. How could we! Even though on the outside it often looks like things are falling apart on us, on the inside, where God is making new life, not a day goes by without his unfolding grace.
2 Corinthians 4:16
Thanks for reading!
XOXO- Melody Amber